My Mapping Of Human Conflict And Why It Happens

I’ve been trying to understand the reasons behind human conflict by breaking down the different components. These are just my personal notes as I make a visual map of my observations.

What We Know

Our combined reality requires that we exist in a predictable world that can be accurately used by everyone at the same time.

We cannot operate as a society without a predictable and malleable environment. This is critical for providing medical services, navigation, training/learning, communication, infrastructure, sustainability, etc.

We create or destroy the environment around us to meet our needs and desires. We plan out the future and deploy technology to make it happen.

What We Experience

Our individual reality is not fully predictable. Day to day life brings constant change, upsets, and the unexplained. The world we live in does not engage individuals in a consistent predictable manner.

We must maintain a routine lifestyle while ingesting inconsistencies. Society demands that we obey the rules even when they do not equally support us as individuals. We must meet expectations regardless of problematic circumstances.

We balance daily life against the tide of uncertainty and the undiscovered universe with no way to articulate abnormal experiences to those around us.

  • That which we collectively know as fact in our society is also crucial for daily living, so it cannot be denied.
  • That which we experience as individuals is profoundly important to our stability as acting members of society, so it cannot be ignored.

Currently, there is no effective unifying force between these two conditions and thus there is inevitable disruption within the framework of personal and societal relationships at all levels that leads to conflict.

How We Learn

We are in a constant state of learning. Everything we experience is added to our internal knowledge base. The input of information is streaming faster than we can process the data.

What we learn is relative to our environment, challenged only by collision with other environments; each filtered through systems designed to increase their own values while decreasing the value of those opposing them.

In the absence of firsthand experience, what we are learning is second-hand information. The majority of us are not scientists, astronauts, or prophets. We don’t have training in those fields or access to divine information. We are trusting others to be accurate and truthful.

How We Think

We think in terms of survival pitted against human amnesia. Our minds only recall a fraction of what we learn. Memories are re-written, details lost, facts distorted.

The truths we hold dear are rooted in distorted, biased selections from memories that filter through a system dedicated to its own survival or personal gain. Memories lacking context are used to engage and often change the world around us.

Individual perception and understanding are literally rewriting history in a world ever more dependent on memes and sound bites to fill in the gaps of lost knowledge.

  • What we learn is fuel for minds that have limited recall, but make quick judgements based on feelings.
  • The teachings of the past are at odds with minute-by-minute social media posts and smart device updates about reality in real time.

Currently, there is no reconciling force between these complex conditions and thus there is confusion and frustration that leads to conflict.

How We Build Society

Society is in a constant state of flux between ideologies, vying for the design of what the future looks like and to whom it may favor.

Two core ideologies dominate the landscape.

The first is to conserve the past, to keep the old ways in motion, and keep the old guard in power.

The second is to adapt to change as quickly as possible, eliminating the old guard and moving in a new direction.

The obvious is always missed in this struggle, as each generation will, at some point, become the old guard. Change is a constant, it is an unstoppable force.

How We Debate Society

Short fuses are more than ready to ignite over any small disagreement, with each side claiming sole ownership of the truth but rarely desiring a learning experience that could bring them closer together.

We are locked in rotational, endless debates because:

Ignorance will not suffer reason

Alex Sutton

Our shared reality is in constant competition with our personal reality. Where the two meet is where we argue and debate. Neither side is willing to compromise what they conceive to be absolute fact or truth.

Societal dissidence is invasive and self-replicating, leading to conflicts between individuals, groups, and organizations. This is damaging to the overall stability and health of the nation.

  • One side stands for the old ways and yet they were the ones eroding it in their youth. They are unaware that the old ways they now fight for are compromised versions of what they were once taught.
  • The other side stands for new ideas and a new direction, but they are oblivious to the programming they received in their youth. Their minds are compromised with pockets of bias that resist some changes.

Currently, there is no persistent awareness of these conditions and thus there is inconsistency in positions and opinions that lead to conflict.

The 4 Detractors

There are 4 fundamental root detractors to the human condition (Death, Aging, Suffering, and Mental Health). Everything else is simply a subcategory, residual, or product of these four. They are heavily interlocked with each other.

For the most part, mankind ignores these 4 conditions. They are not brought up until they occur. Resources are not primarily assigned to stave off or end these conditions. In short, they are not mankind’s number one priority. In fact, they are not even in the top ten.

The 3 Controllers

There are 3 primary root controllers of humanity. Everything else is simply a minor control mechanism under one of these three.

Money, Power, and Influence are hands down the top controlling forces when it comes to humanity. These three controllers touch every single person on this planet, in one way or another.

Most people spend their lives in pursuit of money, under the control of others, while being misguided by influencers they trust.

  • We relentlessly chase after money in the hopes of having a better life for ourselves or our family, ignoring the fact that very few people ever obtain it.
  • Meanwhile those in power live the lives we can only dream about, while they stand on our backs to maintain success.

We are ignoring the fact that the influencers, talking in our ears about who to fear and who to hate, can all be connected back to those who have the money and the power.

The 2 Dividers

There are 2 core dividing mechanisms for humanity. Everything else is simply a subcomponent of these two. They keep us from achieving our full potential and stifle any opportunity of us coming together as a species for the betterment of our health and the environment we live in.

Tribalism and nationalism are where we draw lines against each other, one to pit neighbor against neighbor and the other to pit nation against nation. They are the machines of segregation that allow the few to control the many.

But it’s controlled at a perilous price. The longer we work against each other, the better we get at sabotaging our own futures and the survivability of this world we all live in.

  • We are divided so that we can be controlled, and so that problems aren’t solved. The more problems, the more distraction.
  • We create villians and heroes to avoid involvement, when in reality what we really need are everyday people working to resolve conflict within their communities.

We are quickly heading for a singularity fueled by science, armed by technology, and carried out by confused human beings addicted to pointing fingers at each other for problems they could help resolve. Because of this, conflict thrives and mankind trades peace for violent passions.

The 1 Solution

At the end of the day, it all comes down to just one solution (You). Either You work to resolve that which feeds conflict or You wait until it comes to your doorstep.

Conflict thrives on hypocrisy, suffering, ignorance, and a lack of compassionate action for those in need. Each and every single one of us contributes to every problem on Earth in one way or another.

If you do not act against detrimental things happening to other people, then do not be surprised when they spill over into your life. Conflict will always find a way to expand and touch more people if not resolved.

  • We either work together or we burn together. Problems get stronger the longer you deny them.
  • There are opportunities every day to understand each other and the human condition but not if you are in denial.

And there’s the rub, we are the masters of denial and because of that, we endure unnecessary suffering and loss.

This concludes my understanding of human conflict.

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  1. Your wheel is genius. Nice work.
    If we are to go anywhere but where we’ve been it’s going to take a level of awareness and fluidity to get there. Life is flux. It’s the only thing constant. Learning to accept that would take a miracle, considering the currently accepted dialog.

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    • Thanks!!

      I agree, ” awareness and fluidity”, are in dire need (and so many other things).

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      • And how do we change the dialog to something more valuable?

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        • You Asked – “And how do we change the dialog to something more valuable?”

          My Response – My study isn’t on how to fix conflicts, just understanding how they start, but your question is interesting.

          If we wanted to “change the dialog to something more valuable”, then we would have to ask each person who is part of the conversation what the most valuable dialog is to them. This would most likely lead to an obvious conclusion, that they would all be different, some even offensive to others.

          This would happen because there is no such thing as more or most important dialog to anyone outside of an individual.

          Valuable is relative to individuals, not groups.

          Example: A person may find something like a child’s life to be valuable, but not the military; and it consists of people who, (as individuals), see value in the lives of children.

          Maybe children’s lives do matter to everyone, but not poor children since we don’t want to feed them.

          Maybe if a parent is an antivaxxer they love their children more by protecting them from the shot or maybe people who get the vaccine love their children more by protecting them from Covid.

          Maybe children’s lives matter but not until they are born… but we know that’s also not true because the ones born still don’t have shots to protect them from Covid. (we are on our third shot they are still on zero)

          1. take part in a conversation or discussion to resolve a problem.

          Maybe there are no problems, maybe it’s like the old saying and there are only opportunities.

          But we are trying to “change the dialog to something more valuable”, so try this.

          Step 1: Pain
          If you want to discuss something more valuable then everyone at the table must feel the same pain.
          Example: Many people who were against vaccines changed their minds once they got Covid, because they felt the pain from it.

          Step 2: Loss
          People will beg to have a conversation if they are losing the same things you are losing.
          Example: Insurance companies have stopped paying Covid bills for people who are not vaccinated. Average cost starting at $10,000. Those people are now wanting to talk about government health care (go figure).

          Step 3: Fear
          A valuable conversation is easy when people are scared.
          Example: There was a family of 5 that lost the Dad and two of the offspring to Covid. The remaining mother and son were much more open to a “valuable discussion” after that about vaccines.

          I would say start with these three, but whatever you do, don’t try to use reason. “Ignorance will not suffer reason”, quote me on this.

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        • This is a good example of what I was talking about:

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    • I thought about it and added two more sections at the bottom to reflect how it could be fixed but I had to cross a line to do it.

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