10 Things I Learned When I Became Religious: (#6) Too Many People Pretending To Know What’s Best For You

The self assigned people who hold positions of authority are making life and death decisions for entire groups of people.

A person can be assigned or “chosen” for a position that they have no competence for, no background check, and no valid vetting process. The way they are chosen falls under just a few very weak processes that I have defined below.

The, “I’ve Been Watching You”, process: This one is easy to understand, congregation members assign a person a position because they have been watching that person and can see that they are a “good fit”. They literally give you the keys to the car without a drivers license or training.

There was a guy at church, (married), who was great with kids, so they decided that he should be the new “Youth Minister”. He took over the youth group and ended up sleeping with one of the underage teens.

The short story is this, the girl was in an abusive home and lost her ability to have healthy relationships with men. The “Youth Minister” was untrained, out of control and unable to differentiate a cry for help from a sexual advance.

The, “I Was Called”, process: This one is very complicated since it implies that feelings are better than logic. The person “FEELS” that they have a calling to be in a certain position. They feel it in their bones, that they have been called to serve in a special way.

The, “Always Here”, process: This is the simplest to understand. If you never miss a service, are always on time, in attendance every Sunday (early even), and never miss the bonus days, then you are the best person for the job (almost any job). You are seen as a good person based solely on attendance.

The, “Work with What We Got”, process: This applies to small congregations where the numbers aren’t there. People are assigned positions simply because they are available. This is the most troubling because there is no semblance of any vetting.

I’ve learned that you have to stay aware of the people around you no matter where you are or who you are with. Learn by the word of God and not the words of self appointed leaders.

Romans 16:18 — For such persons do not serve our Lord Christ, but their own appetites, and by smooth talk and flattery they deceive the hearts of the naive.

Matthew 24:4 — And Jesus answered them, “See that no one leads you astray.

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  1. You forgot to add that these leaders should be obliged to provide evidence for any and every claim they make with regard theoir religious council.

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