I’ve learned over the years how valuable anger can be. Unlike sadness, anger doesn’t want to control you. Unlike fear, it doesn’t hold you down against your will.

Anger is a servant, it obeys you in the most wonderful way, it grants wishes.

If you tell anger you don’t like something, it will utterly destroy it. Anger doesn’t believe in roadblocks, it doesn’t care about what people think and it never rests.

Anger is honest, it doesn’t waste words. Everything it says it gets from the deepest most truthful part of your gut. Everything it does is done with the maximum amount of strength you have to give.

I haven’t seen anger for quite some time but it’s not because of any effort on my part, I have no desire to control it. I just changed the things I wanted in life. What I want now simply doesn’t require anger.

What a strange thing to learn over time, that anger relied on my needs for its survival.

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  1. “What a strange thing to learn over time, that anger relied on my needs for its survival.”

    I like that… the quote, says it all

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  2. Have you heard of Kubler-Ross stages of grief and loss? Denial, anger, bargaining, depression, acceptance. Anger in this case is reality crashing in on one and one having the beginning stages of facing up to loss or grief. M h o One’s support or illusions of support are smashed. And the pain triggers anger to begin with.

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  3. Have you heard of Kubler-Ross stages of grief and loss? Denial, anger, bargaining, depression, acceptance. Anger in this case is reality crashing in on one and one having the beginning stages of facing up to loss or grief. M h o One’s support or illusions of support are smashed. And the pain triggers anger to begin with. Forgot to check the box… Now I’m doing it.

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  4. Interesting thoughts. What movie was that video from?

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  5. Not sure that I necessarily agree, but interesting thoughts, anyway.

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  6. […] via Thoughts In The Back Of My Mind (#5) What A Wonderful Thing Anger Is — Reality Decoded […]

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  7. I think this is a very interesting take on anger and its so interesting to see in the comments that others don’t have much of a clue thought I know that grief and anger are intricately related. My therapist always says anger is a cry from the true self and another guy Dawkins or something says its higher level as it busts us out of depression but not as high level as the states of joy and surrender, but to my mind those follow on the back of anger cleanly and clearly expressed and the burning up of illusions it can bring. Great post.

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    • You Stated — “but to my mind those follow on the back of anger cleanly and clearly expressed and the burning up of illusions it can bring”

      My Response — Well said and so true.

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      • Yes and basically there are a host of forces out there hell bent on invalidating true anger and making us suck it back up in my personal experience. With very detrimental consequences.

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        • You Stated — “forces out there hell bent on invalidating true anger and making us suck it back up… With very detrimental consequences.”

          My Response — Agreed, I think they conflate anger with other issues like violence and bad social behavior.

          If a person is abused in any way (mental, financial, physical, etc) they have a right to be angry and respond in an angry fashion. It’s healthy for the mind and body. It also clears perception and allows a person to move quickly to a solution.

          This doesn’t in anyway approve violence that exceeds the law and I think this is where different forces try to eliminate anger all together in the hopes of reducing the possibility of violence.

          If a person is prone to violence then that’s another matter. We are entering an age where people are looking for one size fits all solutions but the world will be a dangerous place if anger were removed from it.

          In the absence of anger we are looking at a spring of oppression and depression.

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